6 Ways to Make Your Resolutions Stick
Beth Janczak, LCSW
Every year, my husband and I sit down and write our new year’s resolutions. We write some that are family goals, a few that are personal goals, and some that are work related. The problem is, many times (ok almost all the time,) once we write them, we forget to actually follow through or decide they are too big, become overwhelmed and give up.
I love writing goals and dreaming about all the things I will accomplish during the new year. The thought of a new year feels refreshing and like a chance to start over. Where I struggle is putting thought into action. This year, I’m deciding to follow a new plan in writing (and completing) my resolutions, and I hope my strategy is helpful to you as well!
It’s easy to create vague large goals for the new year, but in reality, it’s best to pick one small specific goal. Instead of, “I will be more present and less anxious in 2018” set a goal of, “I will sign off of social media by 8pm.” Setting a specific, realistic goal helps you remain motivated, focused and excited.
Keep Your Goals Positive!
Avoid words like “don’t” or “can’t.” It’s much easier to stick to a goal with words that are
positive such as “will” or “can”. Being kind to yourself is half the battle.
Break Goals Down
Even when goals are specific and realistic, it’s easier to keep going when we break
a goal down into a mini goal. If your goal is to become more present and less anxious,
it’s helpful to determine how this will look on a daily basis, and what little steps you can take to reach the overall goal.
Reward Yourself for Your Progress
Positive rewards help keep us on track! Reward yourself when you meet one of your goals or even one of your mini-goals. Rewards help make goals attainable.
Give Yourself Grace
A bad day, or a missed step on a goal, doesn’t mean all is lost. It is simply a chance to start again. Progress is rarely a straight path. Be kind, and allow yourself to start again. Doing so will help you stay on track!
Enlist the Help of Others
Goal setting can help you feel motivated, fulfilled and future-focused. Counseling can be a great place to help you stay on track and feel well! Our staff at Lakeview Counseling wishes you nothing but the best, and is here to help you reach your goals to become your best self in 2018!